Developmental delay or Developmental disorder???

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Without understanding fully what either term means, you are probably thinking one is worse than the other. This is not necessarily so. Somewhere in your mind you may be tempted to believe that a delay just means late and therefore your child will catch up with time but what if it is a delay which will last into adulthood or through life? Or what if it is a delay that lasts long enough to become a disorder? The extent of the lag and the presence of other symptoms should give you a clue. For instance, if a child is not walking by 24 months, you may be worried that the child has a delay. However, if the same child is also not using any words by this time or not gesturing appropriately for their age, it could then be an indication of other underlying conditions.

Whilst a developmental delay could simply mean that a child is not meeting their developmental milestones (in one or all areas of physical, cognitive, behavioural, emotional and social development) as expected, it might also be an early warning sign for some other underlying issues which would need to be resolved by a professional. A developmental disorder on the other hand means that the process of development is either not following the right order or is even missing a particular step resulting in impairment in one or more areas of functioning. Think of a disorder this way: A, B ,C, D, E, F is the natural sequence of alphabets but if it then starts to go A,B,D, C,F, you call that a disorder. The symptoms of a disorder can improve over but the impairment itself would not be outgrown.

The question now is why should it matter to you as a parent if it is a delay or a disorder? Maybe the comfort you get from thinking the particular developmental challenge will eventually pass away? Whatever you think please share your comments below.

At the end of the day, you should remember that be it a delay or a disorder, early intervention is key and makes a lot of difference to how the child will be able to overcome their challenges. Track your child’s development, trust your instincts and if you have any concerns, speak to your paediatrician.

Will you like your kids to see the world without spending a fortune?

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Yes it is possible for your children to see the world without spending a fortune.
Buy them books
If you can’t afford new books, borrow some
Encourage them to use the library
Expand their minds
Let their imaginations soar
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Are you really doing what is best for your child?

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You are busy…very busy. You have to work and make ends meet. So your child like an adult, starts their day at 5.00am. They need to get the school bus by 6.30am. School closes at 2.30pm but you can’t pick them up. Not that you don’t want to but, you are busy…very busy. You have to work and make ends meet. So they attend afterschool clubs to keep them occupied. They eventually get home by 6.00pm tired and spent. They need to have dinner, and oh! you have to go over their homework. You will try and get them to go to bed 9.00pm when all is done and tomorrow, the cycle starts all over again.
Stop! That child needs to rest! They need the right amount of sleep and quite frankly you have to find a way to make that happen.
A child that does not get enough sleep can suffer from the following:
– Being overactive
– Inattentiveness
– Inability to focus
– Obesity
– Irritability
– Constantly falling asleep during learning hours
So, the next time you are about to wake that child up at 5.00am, make sure you are doing what is best for the child’s development. And if you are worried your child is not getting enough sleep for other health reasons, please speak to a pediatrician.

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Before you offer that unsolicited parental advice…

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This is a society where we believe “it takes a community to raise a child”. Therefore, we are automatically entitled to giving parenting advice to others- bad enough before they ask for it, and worse still in the face of a child that is not well behaved.
Well, just in case you did not realise, these are the assumptions you may have consciously or unconsciously made about the recipient of your advice:
1. That they need it
2. That they don’t already know about it
3. That they have not tried it before
4. That they are not doing a great job at parenting

A badly behaved child is not always a result of bad parenting. Some children genuinely struggle with appropriate behaviour.

That child who just can’t sit in one place or follow instructions might have ADHD (Attention Deficit Hyperactivity Disorder).
That other child who keeps making that “weird noise” might have Tourettes syndrome.
Oh! and that child who had a meltdown at the hairdresser’s might have SPD (Sensory Processing Disorder).
That child who can’t wait their turn and keeps crying might have AUTISM.
And that child that seems very violent, temperamental and disruptive might have ODD (Oppositional Defiance Disorder).

So when you feel the urge to dole out that unsolicited parenting advice, or cast that judgemental look or murmur “na wa oh!”, how about trying EMPATHY. It is understanding what someone else is going through by putting yourself in their shoes. If you have not parented a special needs child, you don’t know what it takes to parent a special needs child.